Need of the hour- At least reduce corruption if not remove completely... It is in everyone's hand....

It may be considered as a continuation of my earlier post Corruption - Not a bad thing... But a kind of sickness.

India is in turbulence. The powerful institutions of India such as Central and state Gvt.s, Media and Intelligence agencies have not functioned properly. May be they were functioned earlier but not now....

The reason is well known. 'Intelligent illiteracy' or 'corruption bound illiteracy'. Corruption is rooted from the bottom of bureaucracy to top of the top heads of India. Every institution is suffering from some sort of bureaucracy. No one can blame a single person for this. It is resultant of collective actions of all citizens. There need to be lots of guts to not accept or to give bribes to others, the trait which we usually refuse to wear.

We, the common man as well intellectuals of different departments usually wear the 'Burqa of innocence' at several occasions. If someone tries to reveal the truth- the mostly touched ones react violently. That's what we are seeing now a days if we follow the news after Narendra Modi's 'veil' comment on Congress. Modi said the cover is of secularism. It is well understood by common man if we replace it with 'innocence'.

Why so....

Well... it is nature of human being... We do lot of mistakes and if someone notice it we defend it in several means... In past years we had seen so may examples such as in some occasions few notable people saying ' because I came from 'lower cast' or because I came from minority'. In everyday life anyone can find several instances of such ones themselves use to cover their mistakes.

Wearing 'secular burqa' or 'veil of innocence' is not entirely a bad thing or blunder or a sin. Some times it may take lives if we don't wear it. But if someone wears it throughout his or her life... God knows what's the purpose of their lives... It not only hurts those individuals but it affects the system surrounding them badly. If majority people in the society practice this habit... it better be called as a cinema rather than a society. Because everyone acts there. There is no chance to live life. So the irregularities in society... Lot of dirty places in towns. Wherever you see you find a lot of dust piles on streets as well as in the minds of people.

If someone ask for change or want to lead to change... only fools can deny the deal....

It is good for everyone. If an incorruptible person is showing the way how to lead a incorruptible life in a environment which is entirely unsuitable for it.... don't we agree there is something to learn and to listen?

So please spread the word... At least help to unravel the Corruption less society if not you able to lead it from the front....

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How parents lose handle over their children during their growth?

 Time passed so rapidly and very seldom I came to know the news of my village and it's residents with whom I was in contact years back. Recently my father updated the news about his friends, neighbours in my village which I left approximately ten years back. The news was very interesting. One thing has struck me most, that many people whom I observed and had been classmates of mine have died in this ten years course. I was shocked and disturbed for few moments. It shouldn’t happen in that way but had happened.

The most disturbing thing was one son and a daughter of my father’s once business partner lost their lives few years after their marriages. One of them also lost their entire family including partner and a child.

When I was in my teens, it happened to be around these people for few years while I was doing my graduation. The father of these dead was a kind of person who looks for freely available profits. He doesn’t value values. If there is a potential something would be available with little bit of efforts, he catches that opportunity and will obtain it in whatever the least possible way. And those his chosen ways never happened to be morally correct. He was not a politician and he did not do big crimes. Only thing he does was use his surroundings, identify possible opportunities, identify some uneducated innocent fellow villagers who wouldn’t require sophisticated plans and tools to be cheated and finally gain profits within his efficiency limits.

How this all relates to death of his son’s family and daughter?

All this boils down to cause and effect or character driven results. Not only this objective person’s case. In everyone’s life, the nature of a person decides what s/he is going to do, how s/he perceives things and how s/he moulds her/his personality/character upon experiences. Character or characteristics of a person are not static. They change time to time at least minutely. Character is highly moulded in child age in the immediate surroundings. Parents are immediate and powerful control factors of a person’s character. If parent/s has an effective control on a child, the child would almost receive all the best qualities of parent/s. But the twist here is ‘whether the parent/s able to control their child during growth?’ And what is deciding factor of parent/s control on child?

Cheating is not a standalone characteristic. It is associated with few other characteristics and behaviours. Cheaters surname is lie. They have certain outstanding behaviours. They cannot stand on their oath. They cannot believe others easily. Their usual dialogue is ‘make promise’ or ‘I promise’. They doubt their partner their children and themselves too. They are afraid of even very small things. They are not strong guys. They usually feared and frightened. They cry. What not to say- whatever the behavioural scrap in the world lie with them.

To know how the bad qualities evolve please refer to... http://nalamara.blogspot.in/2010/09/corruption-not-bad-thing.html

Now it is our time to decide. How a cheater would have a strong control on their children and how those children will acquire good qualities in presence of their parent/s’ bad behaviour?

At small age child starts observe things. If all those things get aligned this child feels happy and grows in a pleasant environment. What s/he observe needs to be aligned with what s/he hears. If the parents are not doing what they talk and promise then struggle arises in the child. The environment where s/he grows is disturbed. Not only this, the house where this child lives no more a calm place. Every day there would be quarrel among parents. There the meanings of love and affection get corrupted. The child attracts all bad qualities. S/he would be misaligned in all aspects and become worse to his/her parents in all aspects.

This is not going to stop here. The people grown in this kind of corrupt environment are very poor in practicing survival methods. They cannot strongly face the problems that occur in everyday life. They cannot analyse problem in the way to obtain a solution. They think repetitively without coming to end and a solution. They deteriorate their mental abilities. Fear about life and suicide plans at the end.

I observed many times that the person and son quarrel and abuse each other coming on to the streets. Sometime later I also saw them fighting. After a ten year hiatus in information gathering, recently I learnt to know that the son in this story committed suicide recently. This was the news. So I think there is no wrong in using their example for this analysis.

In order to get hold of children first - one needs to control him/herself. Living a life is not an easy job. It cannot be as per the self convenience. Life is driven by some rules. Everyone should allow regulations in their life. If we control ourselves then only we think controlling others- whoever they may be- children, our family members, our subordinates or the fans who admire their celebrities or gurus. If we don’t find someone doesn’t has values we don’t respect him/her. Same thing is applicable to the children-parent relationship.